it goes back to my last post about people being happy. i feel like of the people in my life, the christians are the most unhappy. this is beyond confusing for me since christians should be perpetually joyful about the gift of christ. but they aren't. why? because they are repressed? because they are living sinful lifestyles they feel guilty about? because they are forcing themselves to do things that are not beneficial for them because they think its "gods will"? i really don't know. i just think its sad.
at what point can you stop being supportive of someone who is making decisions you completely disagree with? at what point do people start realizing that if everyone in your life is urging you to take path A and not B, then probably path B is not the best option for you?
thats the amazing thing. we usually don't know what's best for us. we like to think we do. but who can be objective about their own situation? mmm no one. does this mean that we should let other people make our decisions for us? absolutely not. too many people let other people live their life for them. but if we don't know what's best for us then how can we ever make a good decision? common sense. i prefer pros/cons lists, weighing benefits against costs, etc etc. generally speaking your "heart" does not make wise decisions so think with your effing brain for the love of vishnu.
with that said, i wish i or someone i know, knew what is best for me. any ideas?
this is such mumble jumble. i promise one of these posts will be coherent. i just got to get back in the swing of things.
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do you ever watch house? i think the most authentic relationship is between house and his friend wilson. they tell eachother what they really think of each others lives, and are strong enough in the friendship not to get offended.
all this to answer your question in paragraph 3. it should be instantantly. you should not support a bad decision. but it takes three shots of humility and probably another of skyy to make it work...
So when I was a little kid and I would get super pissed at my mom, I would sit and twist my ankle or scratch at my arm, and she would say "what are you doing???" and my reply would be "I'm hurting myself so you will know how mad I am and feel bad for me."
man I was like a little Ghandi
Anyway, honesty is something we have moved far far away from, and that's because in today's society we don't have to be held accountable to it. We've moved away from the real, deep relationships (like Kevin said) and on to superficial ones. If someone told us what's up, we'd dump them as a friend and get a new one that supports our ideas. I think that's why people are unhappy, they're missing something
Jesus
duh
I'll tell you what's right for you. :)
You know what I think we are missing out on, especially when it comes to decision making? Relying on the advice of our elders. The older I get, the more I realize that my mom really was right a lot of the time. We just try and tell ourselves that "they don't understand" because we don't really want to listen...not because they aren't right. It's like Billy said...you find people who support what you are doing and dump those who don't (maybe not dump them as people, but dump their opinions). It's sad...and immature.
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